Q.15) What are the etiquette of an invitation?
Ans) When there is an agreement to attend an invitation, one should not bring another person along without the host's permission unless the service staff is accompanying. The service staff should not be seated at the same level as the guests unless the host is not displeased. Even if people are conversing on the way, they should be bid farewell at the entrance of the invitation venue. If someone is brought inside, inform the host whether the person was brought by oneself or if they arrived independently. If permitted, partake in the shared meal. However, if the host does not grant permission, do not take offense as there are several benefits in seeking permission. Firstly, it is mentioned in the noble hadith that going to a banquet without an invitation is akin to stealing and returning is like plundering. Secondly, the host has specifically invited a few individuals, so it would be inappropriate for a guest to bring an uninvited person along. Thirdly, the host has invited their acquaintances and friends to share their hospitality, and the presence of a stranger would affect their enjoyment. As long as others have not begun eating, do not take the lead in picking up morsels. The seating arrangement for meals is to keep the right foot raised and place the left foot under it. However, in the presence of spiritual teachers and noble individuals, one should sit respectfully. The mealtime for Sufis is after the Isha prayer and close to midday, which is suitable and wise. They should not delay beyond this time and should eat only as much as others eat during this time, in other words, in moderation. When leaving the dining gathering, shake hands with the host and express gratitude briefly. Sufis call it "Thanking for the meal" (Shukriyah). It means they do not eat someone's food for free, but express gratitude for it. A person should have such dignity. Criticize the flaws and skills of the cook so that they may be advised and not waste ingredients in the future. A young man with an open heart should accept the invitation of a generous person, but should never accept the invitation of a stingy person, even if it requires making excuses.